Monday, July 20, 2009

AT THE WELL... enough is enough

Today, over AT THE WELL, our friend AMY has stepped out and brought forth a topic that many of us seem to be hush-hush about these days. It seems to be a subject that many of us just want to ignore or whisper about.

"Lust and Sex in today's culture"

There, now I have said it. The "L" word and the "S" word. Now that I have said it, why not talk about it....

First of all, I would like to say that when we speak about lust and sex, we are not just talking about the men in this world. Even though the men are the ones who get hit the hardest when it comes to this in our culture today, I would like to inform you that women also struggle with lust and sex in today's culture.

To see how our society is programmed by the "L" word and the "S" word, all you have to do is visit your local supermarket or go to a nearby movie theatre. Even the sitcoms on television have resorted to slapping all of this lust and sexual innuendo's in our face.

Can you remember back when a couple kissing was risky business? Boy wouldn't we love to have those days back again.

Amy has posed to us today a question ...
"In what ways can you help the men in your life fight this battle?"

I would like to alter the question a bit and ask
"In what ways can you help fight this battle in YOUR life".

One of the greatest things missing in our society today is having BOUNDARIES! We get on to the teens of America today because they don't seem to have any boundaries. Look at the way they dress. The way they talk. They way they disrespect authority. But really whose fault is it that our teens are this way, whose fault is it that our teens have no boundaries?

The answer will be found as you look around at the adult figures in society. The movie producers. The magazine editors. The pop singers on the radio. The divorced parents that have moved onto spouse # 4 or 5.

BOUNDARIES...
That is the answer to the question put before us today.

Let me ask you, as a Christian woman, what boundaries do you have in place?
  • do you watch TV shows (soap opera's) that are filled with lust, sex and infidelity?

  • do you watch TV talk shows that rip apart families, and promote adulterous affairs.

  • do you dress inappropriately to lure the eye of another woman's man?

  • do you have lunch or coffee with a co-worker that is the opposite sex and is not your husband?

  • do you secretly go to websites that you shouldn't?

  • do you have private conversations with other men on facebook, myspace, texting or email?
(Laurie's side note)
~No woman should be dressing seductive except for her own man, in the privacy of their home.

~No woman should be going to lunch, dinner or coffee alone with another man. I don't care if you have been friends for 32 years. It is inappropriate.

In order to overcome the temptation of lust, we must all have boundaries put in place. I have raised 3 sons and a very long time ago I said "enough is enough" and we, as parents set boundaries in our home.

One boundary that we had was NO R RATED MOVIES. Not just for our sons ... but we applied this boundary to our own lives.

Another boundary was NO GIRLS IN THE HOUSE WHEN WE ARE NOT HERE.

Boundaries are for everyone, you want kids to have boundaries? Then it has to start with us ... the adults.

WHAT KIND OF BOUNDARIES DO YOU HAVE IN PLACE?

JOHN 10:10 "The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly."

Please join AMY and other friends over AT THE WELL today to hear more on this topic of "Lust and Sex in today's culture". CLICK HERE

4 comments:

Mel said...

This is a great topic because we rarely think about women struggling with these issues...another culprit for women is Romance novels, and it starts when we are young...

shopannies said...

we have 5 teens left at home and a daughter that is married with a family believe me when I say we face challenges like in your post daily

Denise said...

Great post.

Amy Bayliss said...

These are great points. Women struggle too just in different ways. We have to be mindful of all of it and fight the good fight. Thanks for the great insight into another "hush hush" area that we need to work on!